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A Four Day Externship EFT Training®

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

with Certified EFT Trainer, James Parrin (MIAHIP)


EFT Externship Training®

Online from Wicklow, Ireland

27th–28th February & 13th–14th March 2021
9:00am – 5:00pm Daily

CPD: 30 Hours


Join us in taking the first step towards training in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples

Are you skilled in relationship therapy but seek a fresh approach enabling you to be more successful with couples? If yes, then Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is an effective solution.

Transform the way you work with Couples and earn 30 CPD hours at this 4 day intensive training. The Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Externship, developed by Dr. Susan Johnson, is an immersion into the science and power of attachment, emotion and relatedness that can transform the way you understand couples in distress, and change the way you work with families and individuals. This is an experiential and didactic training that will assist your success in your clinical practice as well as strengthen relationships in your own life.

This is an official EFT Externship, endorsed by the International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT)

Pioneered by Dr. Susan Johnson, EFT for couples is a therapy that is rigorously researched, based upon a science of adult love and attachment. EFT gives the therapist a clear guide through the confusing drama of relational conflict and distress in couples, families and individuals. The EFT change process is mapped into a systematic sequence and framework that restructures interactional patterns which bring about positive relationship change.

This structure reliably provides a safe and effective path for long term relational healing. EFT is widely used and popular in Canada, the USA, Europe, the UK, Ireland, Israel, Australia & New Zealand.

Ireland’s EFT Community is a gathering and network of therapists who recognise the value of like-minded support from one another, in the challenging task of working with couples and Emotionally Focused Therapy. So why not join our community of therapists and avail of the dynamic and effective EFT Externship Training®, which is suitable for professional therapists and counsellors who are new to couples’ therapy and also for those who are experienced in this field.

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EFT Trainer: James Parrin (MIAHIP)

James Parrin is the founder of the EFT Ireland Community (2012), and is a certified EFT trainer, supervisor and therapist. He is an accredited psychotherapist and supervisor with IAHIP (Irish Association of Humanistic and Integrative Psychotherapy).James has a private practice in Dublin & Wicklow, Ireland, working with individuals, couples, EFT trainees, supervisees and learning support groups.

James has a deep and caring motivation for the transformative nature of relationships.  He considers the ability to develop a fluid, relational awareness to be a profoundly psychological and spiritual path.  This underlies his love for EFT and the development of a supportive community of therapists who are dedicated to mastering their relational and therapeutic skills and interventions.


Event Schedule:

This EFT Externship is a 4 day workshop spread over two weekends. Starting at 9:00am and ending at 5:00pm each day, participants will learn using a combination of lectures, videotapes, live case consultations and role play exercises.  Upon completion of this course, participants will be able to:

  • See emotional disorders & relationship distress from an attachment perspective.

  • Obtain a clear understanding of the basic experiential and systemic concepts of an “Emotionally Focused” approach to couples therapy.

  • Develop skills in helping partners reprocess the emotional responses that maintain relational distress.

  • Develop skills in helping partners shape new interaction patterns and bonding events.

  • Develop skills to overcome therapeutic impasses with couples.

  • Delineate the stages of the model, interventions most commonly used, and methods to use with couples’ underlying interactional patterns.

Continuing Professional Development:

Certificates will be awarded for CPD days on completion of the 4 days, totalling 30 hours of training. Participants must attend all four days in order to receive their full 30 hours of CPD points and a certificate of completion from ICEEFT. The EFT Externship is the prerequisite course for certification in Emotionally Focused Therapy.




Registration is on a first come, first served basis as places are limited.

IBAN: IE48AIBK93355425542012

Please e-mail [email protected] for electronic transfer details and address details to send a cheque that is payable to James Parrin.

Payment can be made by PayPal, cheque or electronic transfer.

Please use your name as the reference for electronic transfers so that we can identify your payment. 

Booking Information:

Congratulations on starting your journey to enhanced Emotionally Focused Therapy skills. A €250 deposit is required to secure your place, and also to ensure that your training event takes place. In order to prepare and manage the hosting of your event, your payment is required in full by the 12th February 2021 (2 weeks prior to the Externship commencing).

Cancellation Information

Refund requests will be honoured up to 15 days prior to the workshop commencement. All refund requests will be subject to a €50 processing fee. No refunds will be given after 12th February, but transfer of funds to the following externship year or core skills registration will be considered on a case-by-case basis. Email James Parrin directly: [email protected]

We are a heartfelt community, which means we understand there may be difficulty in paying in total initially. Please email us if you’re finding it difficult to pay all the fees at once. We want to support your participation on this workshop.

Registration Form: 

Contact James Parrin to register by phone: 087 202 9755

To secure your place please complete the registration form details below accompanied with the booking deposit. All fields are mandatory.

Reference Materials for Study:

Johnson, S.M. (2019) Attachment Theory in Practice: EFT with Individuals, Couples and Families. New York: Guilford Press.

Johnson, S.M. (2008) Hold me Tight: Your Guide to the Most Successful Approach to Building Loving Relationships.

Johnson, S.M.(2004)  The Practice of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy: Creating Connection, 3rd edition. New York: Brunner-Routledge.

Johnson, S.M.,Bradley, B., Furrow, J., Lee, A., Palmer, G., Tilley, D., Woolley, S. (2005) Becoming an Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist. New York: Brunner-Routledge.

Brubacker, L.L. (2018) Stepping into Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy. Karnac Books Ltd, London.

Educational Objectives for each day:

Day 1: Introduction to Couple Distress, Attachment Theory, Process of EFT, the Model, The Research, and The Map

  1. Describe the nature and causes of marital distress from an attachment perspective.

  2. Describe basic Attachment Theory and how it informs working with couples in EFT.

  3. Describe the systemic elements of EFT.

  4. Describe change factors involved in a couple moving from distress to recovery.

  5. Describe the 3 stages of EFT.

  6. Practice the basic empathy skills that are central to the therapeutic process in EFT.

Day 2: Assessment, Alliance Stage 1

  1. Describe and practice assessment skills in EFT

  2. Describe and practice how to create a therapeutic alliance using: empathic attunement, validation, acceptance, genuineness.

  3. Describe and practice how to enter experience of partners to find out how each constructs his/her experience of their relationship.

  4. Describe and practice how to track and frame the sequences of interaction that perpetuate couples’ distress.

  5. Describe the difference between primary and secondary emotions.

  6. Describe and practice how to frame the negative cycle (e.g., pursue/withdraw) emphasizing attachment needs (e.g., closeness, connection, importance of the other, fear of loss).

Day 3: EFT Interventions and Change Events Stage 2  

  1. Describe systemic and experiential theories that underlie EFT interventions.

  2. Describe and practice the basic EFT interventions for working with emotion, i.e. reflection, validation, evocative responding, empathic conjecture and heightening.

  3. Describe and practice how to use RISSSC to access and heighten emotional experience.

  4. Describe and practice how to facilitate interaction between partners by using enactments.

  5. Explain how to put the interventions together to facilitate change events.

  6. Describe the three change events in EFT: de-escalation, withdrawer engagement and pursuer softening.

  7. Describe and practice the skills of accessing, exploring and deepening emotion.

  8. Describe and practice the skills of facilitating acceptance.

  9. Describe how to choreograph change events using enactments.

Day 4: Individual Therapy and Attachment Injuries

  1. Explain attachment injuries from an Attachment Theory perspective.

  2. Explain the steps toward resolving attachment injuries, creating forgiveness.

  3. Describe EFT skills as they apply to individuals and families.

  4. Summarize ways to continue learning EFT and refining skills in this method of therapy.


The EFT Ireland Core Skills Programme:

Module One: 15th – 16th May
Module Two: 10th – 11th July
Module Three: 18th – 19th September
Module Four: 13th – 14th November

Also please join us for our Irish EFT Community Days:

February 6th
May 29th
August 29th
December 4th

EFT Ireland is a community affiliated with ICEEFT (International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy). ICEEFT’s focus is to foster research in the use of EFT, promote quality training and certification in EFT and as a tool and resource for couples and therapists. ICEEFT has a body of process research that demonstrates the rigorous studies conducted in the effectiveness of EFT. More details of these studies are available on